Let's Talk About Sex, Ba-by!

This is not a testimony but needs to be said...

A word of caution! The majority of Christian argument encouraging teens to wait to have SEX is about getting a sexual disease or “ruining their life with a baby” (Quote from Obama on Youtube). This is a problem-- putting the main emphasis on consequences suggests that the act itself isn’t morally wrong. If scientists wiped out sexual diseases and created the perfect method for not getting pregnant, Christian morality would almost be obsolete. It is sad that we are not armed with a reasonable defense about why we should abstain from sex.  

It is also a mistake to only emphasize the scripture from Jesus that says, “If you love Me, you will obey Me.” Why?

 

Because it can easily degenerate to the weak argument “because I said so!” This will not go deep enough into the heart to create inward conviction. “If you love me, you will eat a grasshopper” and “If you love me, you will never say the word gotcha in my presence” are tests of loyalty but God’s will about sex is NOT that.  

Tell your kids BEFORE they see it on the phone and internet what sex means as a "gift from God."

 

How? Good question! I heard it all my life but never understood it.
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Sex is largely a mystery.  It is holy (special). It is a gift with built in meaning of spiritual unity that leads to God’s blessings for your life and future. It is spiritual superglue that will make you one in soul to your spouse. It’s God’s wedding gift to us and it is more valuable than any masterpiece or work of art. Would you take your favorite artwork down off the wall and use it as a TV dinner tray  to spill soft drinks and serve popcorn on?

 

Sex bonds us spiritually like superglue. If you are a nonvirgin, then you know how strange it feels to just be friends after having sex with a friend.

There is an invisible, powerful spiritual happening that takes place that you do not control. You can try to dismiss it and shake it off—but it is real. Here is the scripture that reveals this: 

Genesis 2:24 “For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be UNITED to his wife, and they will become ONE FLESH.”   And I Cor. 6: 15-17   Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.”

Sex is a “soul tie”.  There is no such thing as “casual sex.” It is a mistake to trade it just to “see how it feels” or to feel like a “ man “ in society because everyone else has done it (or says they have).

 

If sex glues people together, and we spend our life gluing ourselves together and then prying ourselves apart from them, we are conditioning and training ourselves to not really unite with anyone spiritually. You would be destroying your ability to bond in marriage and will leave yourself never appreciating the wedding gift God gave you. You wont even know what your missing!  No wonder the studies show that as fornication increases, so does adultery, instability and lower satisfaction in marriage. 

God promises rewards for obedience to His commands. He is so good to us because His commands are for our good anyway. You will gain His favor. That means, you will have a blessed life. Even when the devil causes trouble, because you love and obey God—your situations will work out for your good. (Lev. 26, Galations 6:7-10, Deut. 28). 

The Lord commands us not to have sex before marriage BECAUSE He wants to protect us. He wants to bless us with things we cannot have if we tear them up. He has prepared a gift that is so awesome it takes years to understand and experience (the gift that keeps on giving) and  as you become one and best friends with your spouse, he wants your marriage to look like your union with Him in the Spirit. If you cheat on your spouse, it’s very similar in spirit to cheating on God with another god. Faithfulness is parallel like a mirror image.  

If you received a 60.00 leather baseball glove as a gift to play ball, would you go scoop up muddy pond water with it trying to catch a creature? NO, the gift giver  would be mad. God gets angry too when He is hurt but He is more grieved in his heart than anything. 

 He wishes you knew.  

His word says, “For a lack of knowledge, my people perish.” 

Sex before marriage is a crime against God whose ways are HIGHER than our ways. You feel different when you compare yourself to other people in the world saying, “hey, I’m not such a bad guy afterall”, until you compare yourself with a holy God and His command for you to become as He is. 

Sex is a seal when a man and woman pledge their lives to each other. 
 

What happens when you use too much glue? Imagine creating something special for a younger child. You are going to let them assemble it and put it together because it is fun. You tell them how to assemble it, but they do not listen, as they begin to pour out glue all over the delicate pieces and ruin it—wasting your effort in preparing it and ruining the parts and pieces. Would you get mad? Would you be irritated and frustrated? God feels these things too.

 A real *hottie*     <====You know you wanna click that link!

Tell God you will honor and respect His gift. You do care about the gift enough to follow instructions. You will not abuse it.

In Jesus name,

 

The world is the devil’s stage and his ways are all around on the internet and TV and in pornographic magazines and jokes. All of it is to distract you and rob youof blessings and truth. Don’t be fooled.

 

Let’s pray for your future spouse that you will love each other with whole hearts and for your whole life!

 

 

 

Just a Ticket to Heaven?

Condensed notes from a conference on Power and Love:

Don’t focus on the devil and sin (Have a “single eye”). Our problem is not with sin—we have an identity problem-- that through a lack of the Word-- we are destroyed. Our fight is with our identity (submitting to God in a fallen world with our feelings instead of faith; walking by faith and not by sight or circumstance). Don't APPLY the gospel(religious formulas)—You ARE the gospel in Christ.

You can pray your “best prayer” and nothing changes because you are “applying God” not allowing Him to flow through you. Don’t let your prayers be attempts to get help for life’s “issues” but let your prayers be about the power of the KingdomLife! The power of life and death are in our tongues and we are destroyed for a lack of knowledge. We have reduced Christ to a “ticket to Heaven” instead of manifesting His image of LOVE and being the "salt" and "light" in the world. We were created in the Maker’s image and He IS LOVE. We are hated by the enemy because we look like our Father and were made to Love and be LOVED--to reflect that image.

Photo credit: Azarius 

We were not created to think for ourselves independently of God—that was what Eve did. The serpent questioned her obedience to Father and think for herself. We were created to Love and obey the One that would keep us safe and blessed.  He said if you love me, you will obey Me. “Sophisticated” has a definition that means: “Loss of innocence.” Not everyone wants to be LOVE/manifest their Creator/live their purpose. They want to try and retain their “rights” that sin temporarily provides.

The devil doesn’t think we love God—he thinks we only need him. Love not your own life to death—that's how we overcome the evil in the world around us and just look at Job. He knew that everything he needed or wanted was in the Great I AM. He would not trade his soul for the world.

The devil is a cut off withering branch—he is coming to nothing. He loves attention because he is nothing. He tries to get us to focus on ourselves and our past failures so we will be distracted from making waves for the Kingdom of God. That way you will “need” God instead of love Him. When horrible things happen to innocents they say “God allowed” it and accept it as final. That is very deceptive and damaging because it takes the fight out of our spirit and prayer life. If we are faithful in hiding His word in our heart when you don't need Him to help us out of a trial, when it comes; we are ready-- not reactive.

 Christians have put God in the position to “fail” them as we avoid spiritual response-ability (Like Adam tried to blame God for the woman He gave to him). We allow our losses to preach to us rather than the Truth and then blame God. We stop Love by “loving our own lives to death.” If you, as a follower of Christ, would just die to self—you wouldn’t hurt anymore. You wouldn’t be like the wicked that are offended by-and-by. You wouldn’t wear the T-shirt from Wal-Mart that says, “It’s all about me.” You wouldn’t see men at face value, you would see them in their God given WORTH. We don’t have sin problems~Jesus took care of that! It is identity problems! Which side will you be on? Yours? Or Gods?

Marriage and children are gifts—why do I want to run from it? (Lack of knowledge and love) Strife in the family is from a lack of LOVE.

Also, He never gave us these gifts at the cost of KNOWING HIM.

Notes from Dan Mohler

**Have you ever considered that the “pearl of great price” is YOU and the Merchant is Christ? Look it up.

Life is fair? If God were fair then we would all deserve to be incinerated in hell. We reap what Christ sowed with his body. Is that fair? Is it fair what He had to do for us? Are you finding God through Life’s issues or through the Truth of the gospel? Life isn’t bigger than Truth.