Monday, October 15, 2012

Let's Talk About Sex, Ba-by!

This is not a testimony but needs to be said...
A word of caution! The majority of Christian argument encouraging teens to wait to have SEX is about getting a sexual disease or “ruining their life with a baby” (Quote from Obama on Youtube). This is a problem-- putting the main emphasis on consequences suggests that the act itself isn’t morally wrong. If scientists wiped out sexual diseases and created the perfect method for not getting pregnant, Christian morality would almost be obsolete. It is sad that we are not armed with a reasonable defense about why we should abstain from sex.  

It is also a mistake to only emphasize the scripture from Jesus that says, “If you love Me, you will obey Me.” Why?

Because it can easily degenerate to the weak argument “because I said so!” This will not go deep enough into the heart to create inward conviction. “If you love me, you will eat a grasshopper” and “If you love me, you will never say the word gotcha in my presence” are tests of loyalty but God’s will about sex is NOT that.  

Tell your kids BEFORE they see it on the phone and internet what sex means as a "gift from God."

How? Good question! I heard it all my life but never understood it.

Sex is largely a mystery.  It is holy (special). It is a gift with built in meaning of spiritual unity that leads to God’s blessings for your life and future. It is spiritual superglue that will make you one in soul to your spouse. It’s God’s wedding gift to us and it is more valuable than any masterpiece or work of art. Would you take your favorite artwork down off the wall and use it as a TV dinner tray  to spill soft drinks and serve popcorn on?


Sex bonds us spiritually like superglue. If you are a nonvirgin, then you know how strange it feels to just be friends after having sex with a friend.

There is an invisible, powerful spiritual happening that takes place that you do not control. You can try to dismiss it and shake it off—but it is real. Here is the scripture that reveals this: 

Genesis 2:24 “For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be UNITED to his wife, and they will become ONE FLESH.”   And I Cor. 6: 15-17   Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.”
Sex is a “soul tie”.  There is no such thing as “casual sex.” It is a mistake to trade it just to “see how it feels” or to feel like a “ man “ in society because everyone else has done it (or says they have).


If sex glues people together, and we spend our life gluing ourselves together and then prying ourselves apart from them, we are conditioning and training ourselves to not really unite with anyone spiritually. You would be destroying your ability to bond in marriage and will leave yourself never appreciating the wedding gift God gave you. You wont even know what your missing!  No wonder the studies show that as fornication increases, so does adultery, instability and lower satisfaction in marriage. 

God promises rewards for obedience to His commands. He is so good to us because His commands are for our good anyway. You will gain His favor. That means, you will have a blessed life. Even when the devil causes trouble, because you love and obey God—your situations will work out for your good. (Lev. 26, Galations 6:7-10, Deut. 28). 

The Lord commands us not to have sex before marriage BECAUSE He wants to protect us. He wants to bless us with things we cannot have if we tear them up. He has prepared a gift that is so awesome it takes years to understand and experience (the gift that keeps on giving) and  as you become one and best friends with your spouse, he wants your marriage to look like your union with Him in the Spirit. If you cheat on your spouse, it’s very similar in spirit to cheating on God with another god. Faithfulness is parallel like a mirror image.  

If you received a 60.00 leather baseball glove as a gift to play ball, would you go scoop up muddy pond water with it trying to catch a creature? NO, the gift giver  would be mad. God gets angry too when He is hurt but He is more grieved in his heart than anything. 

 He wishes you knew.  

His word says, “For a lack of knowledge, my people perish.” 

Sex before marriage is a crime against God whose ways are HIGHER than our ways. You feel different when you compare yourself to other people in the world saying, “hey, I’m not such a bad guy afterall”, until you compare yourself with a holy God and His command for you to become as He is. 

Sex is a seal when a man and woman pledge their lives to each other. 

What happens when you use too much glue? Imagine creating something special for a younger child. You are going to let them assemble it and put it together because it is fun. You tell them how to assemble it, but they do not listen, as they begin to pour out glue all over the delicate pieces and ruin it—wasting your effort in preparing it and ruining the parts and pieces. Would you get mad? Would you be irritated and frustrated? God feels these things too.

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Tell God you will honor and respect His gift. You do care about the gift enough to follow instructions. You will not abuse it.

In Jesus name,


The world is the devil’s stage and his ways are all around on the internet and TV and in pornographic magazines and jokes. All of it is to distract you and rob youof blessings and truth. Don’t be fooled.


Let’s pray for your future spouse that you will love each other with whole hearts and for your whole life!




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